com‧pro‧mise /
- a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles, etc., by reciprocal modification of demands.
- something intermediate between different things: The split-level is a compromise between a ranch house and a multistoried house.
- an endangering, esp. of reputation; exposure to danger, suspicion, etc.: a compromise of one’s integrity.
- to make a dishonorable or shameful concession: He is too honorable to compromise with his principles . source: Dictionary.com
"Everything in life is a compromise. So it is in love as well. The tricky part is knowing which compromises are healthy, and which are risky. Which compromises will strengthen the relationship, and which will, over time, erode its foundation. Some compromises come back to haunt you when it’s too late to change the outcome. A compromise can even change who you are."
some people say love is all about compromise, without it no two people can co-exist together. i do agree that compromises are necessary, we make em everyday, but shouldn't there be a limit of what we can sacrifice for the sake of getting along? what if the compromise you or your partner are asking for would cause a hidden resentment to build up that would jeopardize the relationship at some point in the future.
plus, isn't it obvious that we crave most that which is forbidden to us? i might not necessarily like burgers and don't eat them that often, but if my partner asks me to give up burgers for life, i'd feel the need, or more like the obsessive desire to have a burger (just to be clear, i loooooove burgers)
a compromise is an important part of any relationship, it's what makes us civil i guess, but i believe in being honest with each other, i mean c'mon a relationship solely based on a string of compromises, no matter how right it feels now, is either doomed to fail or the participants are gonna feel a whole lot of resentment towards the other.
All our final decisions are made in a state of mind that is not going to last.
-Marcel Proust
If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise.
-Robert Fritz
